tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30732727268456792452024-03-04T21:47:09.057-08:00Navigating the Land Mines of DivorceInformation, tips and news on navigating the land mines of separation, divorce, dating again and rebuilding your life by Sheilah D. Vance, Esq., divorce attorney and author of two books on separation and divorce, the novel "Land Mines", and its companion journal, Journaling Through the Land Mines".Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-79179350152884670442011-03-24T15:00:00.000-07:002011-03-24T15:00:30.063-07:00http://myemail.constantcontact.com/Reminder--2-Free-Novels-This-Month.html?soid=1102151813884&aid=NPq4cMpesyYReminder--The Elevator Group is offering two free books this month. One of them, Land Mines by Sheilah Vance, is all about navigating the land mines of divorce. Perhaps that's why it has won awards for women's fiction, along with multicultural and African American fiction.<br />The other, Heads Deacon, Tails Devil, by PJ McCalla, is about using the power of friends, family, and God to overcome domestic violence. It's also a multi-award winner.<br />But, your order has to be postmarked by March 31!<br />See the offer below.<br />--Peace<br /><br /><a href="http://myemail.constantcontact.com/Reminder--2-Free-Novels-This-Month.html?soid=1102151813884&aid=NPq4cMpesyY">http://myemail.constantcontact.com/Reminder--2-Free-Novels-This-Month.html?soid=1102151813884&aid=NPq4cMpesyY</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-13095914807395485272010-12-21T06:54:00.000-08:002010-12-21T06:54:08.779-08:00Philly.com : Annette John-Hall: A timely book on eating cheaply and healthily from Philadelphia's &quot;Dollar Diva&quot;Often, a reduced income is one of the byproducts of divorce. Just because you have less money, doesn't mean that you have less style.<br />I know.<br />That's why I published, through my publishing company The Elevator Group, a book called "Dining with the Dollar Diva: Divalicious Menus with Ingredients Costing $1 or Less."<br />The book is now available at Dollar Tree stores nationwide.<br />It makes a great holiday gift, and you can make great gift baskets costing anywhere from $2 - $5 using the book and its recipes as a centerpiece. See more information at www.diningwiththedollardiva.com or www.theelevatorgroup.com.<br /><br />Annette John-Hall of the Philadelphia Inquirer wrote a great article about the book. Check it out at the link below or www.philly.com.<br /><br />Happy Eating!<br /><br /><a href="http://m.philly.com/phillycom/db_41065/contentdetail.htm?contentguid=0z4yxlyD&detailindex=2&pn=0&ps=3">Philly.com : Annette John-Hall: A timely book on eating cheaply and healthily from Philadelphia&apos;s &#38;quot;Dollar Diva&#38;quot;</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-28554043900762039332010-11-13T10:04:00.001-08:002010-11-13T10:05:08.885-08:00How I got over...<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgfCV_rzHcqEatlTJbZLpns3Lh8_fQgaMJD6PrIJ90rStWKqcZSXO6KlD9bK82ZjF4MMnFzadarjjhxj5ttSLM3piFfEz5HBOHf9f0kGtOy25d-yNUFDvuUHmxBOiTlN87UUNsKMVznlxp9/s1600/C4C_webimage.jpg"><img style="float:left; margin:0 10px 10px 0;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 212px; height: 320px;" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgfCV_rzHcqEatlTJbZLpns3Lh8_fQgaMJD6PrIJ90rStWKqcZSXO6KlD9bK82ZjF4MMnFzadarjjhxj5ttSLM3piFfEz5HBOHf9f0kGtOy25d-yNUFDvuUHmxBOiTlN87UUNsKMVznlxp9/s320/C4C_webimage.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5539096883561828274" /></a><br />I wrote about how God helped me navigate the land mines in my own divorce in my new book, Creativity for Christians: How to Tell Your Story and Stories of Overcoming from the Members of One Special Church. See this review of the book by clicking the link below or, if the link doesn't show up, just go to www.danapittman.com.<br /><br />I hope you find it the book to be helpful and inspiring as you navigate your own land mines. Keep your head up!<br /><br /><a href="http://www.danapittman.com/1/category/creative%20writing/1.html"></a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-43818867360905128052010-09-27T09:09:00.000-07:002010-09-27T09:09:44.935-07:00Dealing with rejectionGreat review of our new book, Rejected for a Purpose: How God Uses Rejection to Help You Find and Fulfill Your Destiny, by O.J. Toks.<br /><br />Rejection is often a good thing, when you look at it thorugh a different lense. Toks shows you how. Check it out....<br /><br /><a href="http://hubpages.com/hub/dealing-with-rejection">Dealing with rejection</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-63637923594794382882010-08-01T16:55:00.000-07:002010-08-01T16:55:57.660-07:00Why Divorce? Just Stay Separated - NYTimes.comInteresting article on couples who stay separated for years but never divorce. What do you think?<br /><br /><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/01/fashion/01Undivorced.html">Why Divorce? Just Stay Separated - NYTimes.com</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-63577220873035828032010-07-08T10:55:00.000-07:002010-07-08T10:55:33.759-07:00John Edwards' mistress seeks profits from tell-all book - Local News - Tampa, FL - News - msnbc.com<a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/38129851/ns/local_news-tampa_fl">John Edwards' mistress seeks profits from tell-all book - Local News - Tampa, FL - News - msnbc.com</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-63699702694580466522010-07-07T09:07:00.000-07:002010-07-07T09:07:53.216-07:00Divorce 'is contagious'...and most people see its benefits.Check out this study which began in Framingham, MA in 1948. They found that divorce is contagious, but that most people saw its benefits.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/7871149/Divorce-is-contagious.html">Divorce 'is contagious'</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-86729584606406646122010-07-07T08:53:00.000-07:002010-07-07T08:53:22.552-07:00Divorce 'is contagious'...and not so bad, according to study<a href="http://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/7871149/Divorce-is-contagious.html">Divorce 'is contagious'</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-87703793573595088342010-06-08T09:30:00.000-07:002010-06-08T09:30:32.205-07:00Top 8 iPhone Apps for Self HelpCheck out this link. Maybe you will find an iPhone app to help you navigate the land mines of divorce. The list includes a gratitude journal, so needed as we keep our eyes on the bright side, too. It also includes stress relievers, a zen garden, a goals list--all things that can help you navigate a stressful and confusing time.<br />Hope it helps. And keep your head up!<br /><br /><a href="http://mashable.com/2010/06/05/iphone-apps-self-help/">Top 8 iPhone Apps for Self Help</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-61756214563909932122010-05-10T19:16:00.000-07:002010-05-10T19:17:36.817-07:00Fighting Over the Living Will of J. Bruce Llewellyn - NYTimes.comThis New York Times published this interesting article about the late ground-breaking businessman J. Bruce Llewellyn and what happened when a living will, a couple in the midst of divorce, and a trio of close friends collided. A cautionary tale, perhaps? <br /><br />http://www.nytimes.com/2010/05/09/nyregion/09bruce.html<br /><br /><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2010/05/09/nyregion/09bruce.html">Fighting Over the Living Will of J. Bruce Llewellyn - NYTimes.com</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-43719436732984342162010-02-01T06:42:00.000-08:002010-02-01T06:42:47.536-08:00Chick Wit: A lesson from Meryl and the girls | Philadelphia Inquirer | 01/31/2010Check out this article by Lisa Scottoline, who has navigated two divorces, about lessons learned from the movie, It's Complicated, on Christmas day, when her daughter was spending Christmas with her father. Hope it provides some comfort.<br />And, I agree with her, especially about that one line in the movie that had us both laughing out loud.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.philly.com/philly/entertainment/83023832.html">Chick Wit: A lesson from Meryl and the girls | Philadelphia Inquirer | 01/31/2010</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-48680562203282738812010-01-31T17:51:00.000-08:002010-01-31T17:51:32.844-08:00ReadersDigest.ca - Money : 7 Financial Tips Every Married Woman Should KnowCheck out my article which appeared in Reader's Digest in Canada. The article is "7 Financial Tips Every Married Woman Should Know."<br /><br /><a href="http://www.readersdigest.ca/money/cms/xcms/7-financial-tips-every-married-woman-should-know_3230_a.html">ReadersDigest.ca - Money : 7 Financial Tips Every Married Woman Should Know</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-41206809474765603362010-01-24T09:18:00.003-08:002010-01-24T09:18:46.905-08:00Discussion: Child-Centered Divorce | LinkedIn<a href=http://www.linkedin.com/groupAnswers?viewQuestionAndAnswers=&gid=163276&discussionID=12775994&commentID=10835791&report.success=8ULbKyXO6NDvmoK7o030UNOYGZKrvdhBhypZ_w8EpQrrQI-BBjkmxwkEOwBjLE28YyDIxcyEO7_TA_giuRN#commentID_10835791>Discussion: Child-Centered Divorce | LinkedIn</a><br /><br />Posted using <a href="http://sharethis.com">ShareThis</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-53608577034498387412010-01-24T09:18:00.001-08:002010-01-24T09:18:44.542-08:00Discussion: Child-Centered Divorce | LinkedIn<a href=http://www.linkedin.com/groupAnswers?viewQuestionAndAnswers=&gid=163276&discussionID=12775994&commentID=10835791&report.success=8ULbKyXO6NDvmoK7o030UNOYGZKrvdhBhypZ_w8EpQrrQI-BBjkmxwkEOwBjLE28YyDIxcyEO7_TA_giuRN#commentID_10835791>Discussion: Child-Centered Divorce | LinkedIn</a><br /><br />Posted using <a href="http://sharethis.com">ShareThis</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-26265192739813621662010-01-19T13:39:00.000-08:002010-01-19T13:39:00.436-08:00Report: More men get economic boost from marriage | Comcast.net...because more women are working at better paying jobs than ever before. Alot of men also get an economic boost from divorce, as their standard of living often rises and does not drop like many women's does. Are they having it both ways? Read it and let me know.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.comcast.net/articles/finance/20100119/US.Marriage.Economics/">Report: More men get economic boost from marriage | Comcast.net</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-7340151427901440842009-12-13T14:33:00.001-08:002009-12-13T14:33:05.126-08:00Web site helps divorced parents plan holidays | perez, communication, program - Life - The Orange County Register<a href=http://www.ocregister.com/articles/perez-222618-communication-program.html>Web site helps divorced parents plan holidays | perez, communication, program - Life - The Orange County Register</a><br /><br />Posted using <a href="http://sharethis.com">ShareThis</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-51299342505419165522009-12-11T10:42:00.000-08:002009-12-11T10:42:11.370-08:00SC first lady files for divorce from cheating gov | General News | Comcast.netI guess she figures that one affair (that we know of) is one too many. Best wishes to her and her sons.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.comcast.net/articles/news-general/20091209/US.SC.Governor/">SC first lady files for divorce from cheating gov General News Comcast.net</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-77759950778523302802009-12-11T10:41:00.000-08:002009-12-11T10:41:08.874-08:00SC first lady files for divorce from cheating gov | General News | Comcast.netI guess she figures that one affair is one too many. Best wishes to her and her sons as she stands on her own two feet.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.comcast.net/articles/news-general/20091209/US.SC.Governor/">SC first lady files for divorce from cheating gov General News Comcast.net</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-78598214190320102332009-11-21T06:21:00.000-08:002009-11-21T06:23:30.958-08:00Join me Sat., 11/21, 2pm, for talk/booksigning, Baltimore Public Library, PA Ave. Branch, 1531 W. North Ave.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfIuS6KSEXuDS2jUkKqx3LSwfLmFBcMerfLWTXuN8L5ew6A3ZyFye-HVAi1pxPMHhUKRnRm1ZHsiWK5CGUfRiQifnt_sDlBTfyr039BcDOGBVQ1KfGvKRUrhyphenhyphenAzbavVsgIHBD2RklLIES5/s1600/LandMines_ISBN9780978685416.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 166px; FLOAT: left; HEIGHT: 250px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5406562392274859794" border="0" alt="" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhfIuS6KSEXuDS2jUkKqx3LSwfLmFBcMerfLWTXuN8L5ew6A3ZyFye-HVAi1pxPMHhUKRnRm1ZHsiWK5CGUfRiQifnt_sDlBTfyr039BcDOGBVQ1KfGvKRUrhyphenhyphenAzbavVsgIHBD2RklLIES5/s320/LandMines_ISBN9780978685416.jpg" /></a><br /><div>Sheilah Vance<br />reads from her new novel, Land Mines.<br />Carolyn James' life looked great -- new job at a law school, marriage to a doctor, two children, living in a McMansion outside Boston. Then her husband leaves her for another woman, stripping her of her money, stability and self-esteem. Carolyn begins keeping a "divorce journal" to cope and rebuild, writing about her experiences with separation and divorce. Land Mines is Sheilah Vance's second novel, after Chasing the 400. She is a lawyer practicing in Philadelphia and an adjunct professor at Villanova University School of Law.</div>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-3293302338272685462009-11-02T18:15:00.000-08:002009-11-02T18:15:02.673-08:00Writers LIVE at the LibrarySheilah Vance<br />reads from her new novel, Land Mines.<br />Carolyn James' life looked great -- new job at a law school, marriage to a doctor, two children, living in a McMansion outside Boston. Then her husband leaves her for another woman, stripping her of her money, stability and self-esteem. Carolyn begins keeping a "divorce journal" to cope and rebuild, writing about her experiences with separation and divorce. Land Mines is Sheilah Vance's second novel, after Chasing the 400. She is a lawyer practicing in Philadelphia and an adjunct professor at Villanova University School of Law.<br />Schedule: (click on the location to see map)<br /><a href="http://www.prattlibrary.org/locations/map.aspx?loc=Pennsylvania%20Avenue%20Branch">Pennsylvania Avenue Branch</a> Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 (2:00 p.m.)<br /><br /><a href="http://www.prattlibrary.org/calendar/series.aspx?folder=610">Writers LIVE at the Library</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-84890578519282362512009-10-29T18:18:00.000-07:002009-10-29T18:18:23.562-07:00A close read finds hope in the madness of book-price wars - washingtonpost.com<a href="http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/10/23/AR2009102304321.html">A close read finds hope in the madness of book-price wars - washingtonpost.com</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-445869802462130432009-10-29T18:11:00.000-07:002009-10-29T18:11:23.581-07:00Mark Coker: Why E-Books are Hot and Getting Hotter<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mark-coker/why-e-books-are-hot-and-g_b_320986.html">Mark Coker: Why E-Books are Hot and Getting Hotter</a><br /><br />Check it out. I just converted my first book to an e-book. Many more to come.Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-68360893092091309352009-10-29T15:51:00.000-07:002009-10-29T15:51:52.589-07:00Marriage on the rocks, study finds | Philadelphia Inquirer | 10/28/2009<a href="http://www.philly.com/philly/phillywomen/66792607.html">Marriage on the rocks, study finds Philadelphia Inquirer 10/28/2009</a>Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-92030255184243765142009-09-29T10:36:00.001-07:002009-09-29T10:36:21.985-07:00Book offers early look into Obama's political rise :: The SouthtownStar :: Oak Lawn :: Hometown<a href="http://www.southtownstar.com/neighborhoodstar/oaklawn/1790854,092709aherncol.article">Book offers early look into Obama's political rise :: The SouthtownStar :: Oak Lawn :: Hometown</a><br /><br />Shared via <a href="http://addthis.com">AddThis</a><br />Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3073272726845679245.post-31419656122106955422009-09-05T08:04:00.000-07:002009-09-05T08:07:55.538-07:00How to divorce an elusive ex? My answer in USA Weekend magazine 9/6How do you serve divorce papers on an ex who doesn't want to be divorced and avoids service of process? See my answer to that question in the Sept. 6 issue of USA Weekend Magazine, in Dennie Hughes' relationship column, at <a href="http://tinyurl.com/lxjgjs">http://tinyurl.com/lxjgjs</a>. There's always a way. One person can't stop the wheels of justice from rolling. It's just a little more complicated, but that elusive ex can't hide out forever.Sheilah Vancehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13111872618851838448noreply@blogger.com0